How to Read The Signs of Female Orgasm

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Waiting or wondering about your first time orgasm can be confusing, frustrating and trying. How do you know what it feels like, how do you know what you’re doing is right, and how do you even know how to have an orgasm at all, if you don’t really know what it is?

Unfortunately there is no complete how to guide, or definitive checklist to experiencing your first time orgasm. What you can do though is familiarize yourself as to what female orgasm really is, what it entails, what it can feel like, and also just as importantly what you feel after the moment of orgasm. If you have an understanding of what it’s all about, it will help you to recognize when you do actually have one.

What Does It Feel Like?

It’s very difficult to put in to words what an orgasm feels like. Much like any other physical feeling or emotion, unless you have experienced it before you can only really imagine what it is like. Varying descriptions can include: A sexual quiver deep inside a woman’s vagina, or a feeling of sexual warmth that spreads throughout your body. It can also be described as starting out as a small sexual tingle that develops in to a body encompassing magical rush that takes over your whole entire body. Sounds pretty good right? But how do you make your body do that?

Orgasm occurs physically when you experience the following:

  • An intensified heart rate or blood pressure
  • Increased muscle tension
  • Deepened, labored or more excited breathing
  • A flush to your skin.

These physical signs are the body’s response to sexual excitement. Yes, they feel really good however they are not what orgasm actually feels like, but rather what you experience on your way to having an orgasm. They are the result of the build of up of great foreplay and are the indicators that your body is reaching the point of climax.

Climax is the end result, or another word for orgasm. The reason that orgasm is referred to as climax is because these physical reactions during sex are the culmination of sexual energy that continues to build and build as you become more aroused. When the energy finally reaches it peak, it can no longer be contained and orgasm can be described as when all this sexual energy bursts in to a wonderful wave all over your body.

I Think I’ve Had One

The general consensus about first time orgasm is that if you’ve had one then you would definitely know. However, if the whole sex game is entirely new to you, or you didn’t even know that orgasm existed or didn’t really understand what it was, then it is possible that a cheeky orgasm could have snuck up on you without you even realizing it. It’s really the more sexually experienced woman who knows the difference between thinking you’ve had one, and knowing that yes, you definitely have had your first time orgasm.

Experiencing a first time orgasm will be different for every woman. It may take the time and patience of a more experienced lover to help you reach your sexual heights. Or, it could be the result of some well-practiced masturbation and for some, first time orgasm could even be completely accidental. One day you’re having sex as usual without any extra effort on either partner’s part, and then boom! A body shaking orgasm breaks all over your body leaving you wondering, where did that come from, how did it happen and how can I have one again?

How Can I Tell If I’ve Definitely Had An Orgasm?

One things for sure, when you have had an orgasm, you will be left with a ‘sex flush’ or an after glow. A natural rosy blush around a woman’s cheeks or chest, combined with an ‘Ahhhh’ like after feeling. The magical thing about orgasm is not only does it feel truly wonderful when you’re having one, the after effects can be equally as pleasurable.

Intense female orgasm puts your body in to a deep relaxation and while for men’s climax, this usually means falling asleep after all their hard work, for women all those bursting energy particles release endorphins that result in a warm, happy womanly radiance. Endorphins are small, protein molecules produced by cells in your nervous system and when released can lead to feelings of euphoria that can give you a real buzz.

Endorphins really are like bubbles of happiness bursting and tingling all over your body and they definitely can have some funny or quirky effects on women after sex. Some different types of feelings women can enjoy from after orgasm endorphins are; a contented and relaxed feeling of closeness with your partner, the need to cuddle up closely, or the need to talk and connect about all these wonderful feelings you are experiencing. Or for some it could even give them little giggles, or give you the need to natter on about well, nothing really, but just leave you rambling on in your own happy after sex way. If you are feeling or experiencing any of these things after sex, it’s a very good indication that you indeed have had your first time orgasm.

Different Types Of Orgasms

There are different types of orgasms that you can experience and no first time orgasm will be the same. It could happen to you in a little wave, or it could be a huge tsunami that crashed in from nowhere. You won’t know for sure how it will happen for you because orgasms even when you are having them regularly come in all different shapes and sizes. Sometimes small, medium and pleasant, or perhaps cheeky little orgasms that may catch you by surprise. And other times when you are feeling particularly sensual, or are feeling a very intense sexual connection with your partner (or even just yourself) you can have body shaking orgasms that really rock you to your core.

Ways To Assist With First Time Orgasm

Learning how to have an orgasm should be a fun exercise and like anything else needs to be practiced, to be perfected. For some, masturbation is the key or using a sex toy can help to bring your body to climax. For others it will take a good partner and their touch, instead of your own to help you experience an electric orgasm.

Symptoms of Female Hysteria

Female Hysteria

Women Crying, A Wandering Uterus & Pelvic Massage… Now Really??

When you think of female hysteria by today’s standards, you might let it fall in to a number of categories. From a group of women finding themselves in an uncontrollable fit of laughing hysterics, to perhaps the kind of female hysteria that is only found when there is a designer shoe sale.

The term female hysteria however has a much more checkered and particularly peculiar past, with it once being a commonly diagnosed disease. Found exclusively in women, female hysteria was widely associated with sexual dissatisfaction, the cause of which was believed to be the stresses of modern day life that drove civilized women to nervous disorders that resulted even more bizarrely in faulty reproductive tracts.

Symptoms of female hysteria included women crying, faintness, nervousness, insomnia, fluid retention, heaviness in abdomen, muscle spasm, shortness of breath, irritability, loss of appetite for food or sex, to name just a few.

Although female hysteria was mostly predominant in the 17th century, the frenzy of female hysteria actually started in ancient times with the word hysteria coming from the Greek word ‘hystera’ meaning uterus. The ancient Greeks believed that the womb wasn’t set inside the body but rather wandered aimlessly throughout ‘looking for trouble’ and causing ‘disturbances’ of the uterus. All of which were believed to be a product of a woman’s womb becoming light and dry due to a lack of bodily fluids.

So serious was the threat of female hysteria in ancient times that even as far back as 500BC, Greek woman used Oblisbos, which were phallic shaped objects made of wood or leather as dildos to curb their shameless female desire. Going hand in hand with another Greek staple, olive oil, (the best lubricant of the day,) Obslisbos, were commonly given to wives by their husbands before leaving on long journeys or fighting in war, with the belief that the absence of their sperm would cause ‘hysteria’ in their women.

Fast-forward to the 17th century, an age where sex toys were considered taboo, there was no hope of husbands handing out Obslisbos and masturbation and rubbing were frowned upon, and apparently there were a lot of hysterical women around! With female hysteria becoming so out of control (an estimated 75 percent of the then female adult population) and living in an era where husbands were simply not competent enough to sexually satisfy their wives, crazily it was up to your local hero, your GP to free you from the mass hysteria and ‘the evil inside’.

Female Hysteria Symptons

Yes you read that correctly. It was up to your GP to stimulate you in his doctor’s office, to the point of orgasm. Instead of it being deemed natural or suitable to touch yourself in the comfort and privacy of your own home, it was perfectly acceptable for your doctor to treat you for female hysteria with a weekly ‘pelvic massage’ that included manually stimulating your genitals until you experienced repeated ‘hysterical paroxsyn’ or orgasm.

It can really make you wonder if this was all morally correct, especially for the times. It was of course, all legitimized by being carried out by ‘medical professionals’ who made the process entirely proper. A bit of rubbing by a doctor was deemed perfectly acceptable because it didnt involve actually inserting anything inside the vagina. (a procedure that was not yet deemed medically proper).

This form of hysteria treatment continued right through until the late 1800’s when the dedicated and tireless doctors turned to the first vibrators that were made to assist with stimulation. It was simply too exhausting and incredibly time consuming to be able to manually pleasure hysterical women all day. And funnily enough, not all physicians had the stamina, patience, nor the skill, to rouse their patients to the release of hysterical paroxsym every time!

Not surprisingly, ‘female hysteria’ is no longer considered a disease and has no place in modern medicine. It can certainly make you wonder though just how ‘hysterical’ women were back then, or just how professional or deluded men really were, masking their perversion behind their medical profession. Clearly the point can always be raised, if paroxysm was the only cure for hysteria, why weren’t women taught how to masturbate and cure themselves… purely for medical reasons of course.

On the flip side, it wouldn’t be surprising just how many ‘female hysteria’ hypercondriac’s there were, with women feigning the symptoms simply so their doctors could do what their husbands could not.

As perverse and as disgusting as it may sound to have your doctor touch in a sexual and non-medical way, there would definitely be women who would have shielded a secret excitement for their weekly pelvic massage. With no rubbing, touching, or masturbation of any kind allowed. No lubricant, sex toys, magazine pin up boys, no sex education and men who didn’t know anything about female anatomy let alone how to give a woman an orgasm… well no wonder the women were hysterical!

8 Strange Fetishes You Probably Didn’t Know Exist

Strange-Fetishes

The world of deviant fetish kinky sex is one where just about anything (ok, ok, everything) goes. There is a fetish for everything, and there are some men and women who find even the most subtle of fetishes sexy.

Here are eight, yes eight, of the weirdest fetishes that you probably never thought could actually be possible:

Squishing

This is exactly as it sounds like. In this fetish, women squish bugs, fruit, and even (ick!) small animals with their feet. The lightest forms of this fetish will have women step on cigarettes, fruit, or bugs with high heels, or barefoot. International outcries have happened after footage of a woman stomping on small animals surfaced from China. PETA, along with many other animal activist groups, rightfully call many of the more extreme squishing videos animal cruelty.

Pony/Puppy Play

Have you had the overwhelming desire to dress up your partner as a horse or a dog, and pretend that they are your pet for a while? Or, do you want to be someone’s pet? Yes, pony play and puppy play are exactly that. There are even leather and latex masks, shoes, and gloves to help add a more realistic look to that puppy outfit. Usually paired with BDSM pony and puppy play have a lot more bite than bark.

Gut Smacking

This is a fetish that is very, very niche. In this fetish kinky sexy, the dominant partner literally picks up their gut, and smacks their submissive with it. This is usually found in chubby chaser groups for obvious reasons : you need a gut in order to smack someone with it. This is also called gut flopping.

Feederism

Feederism is a fetish where a feeder gives someone food as a fetish. The feedee is the one who eats the food, and often gains weight because of it. Food sex festish, or feederism also tends to be associated with forced weight gain, vore, and food fetishism. Currently, the world’s heaviest woman is a feederism fetish model.

Pedal Pumping

As previously stated, some of the most subtle fetishes managed to get sites of their own. There is a community out there that enjoys watching women try to turn on a car and push down on the car’s pedal or brakes. (No, we don’t get it either.)

Sneezing

AACCHOOO! Yes, there is a market out there for videos of both men and women sneezing. Apparently, the louder and more convulsive the sneeze is, the better. We aren’t sure whether or not this would account for men who date women who are allergic to flowers, and still buy them roses.

Balloon Popping

This fetish kinky sex is pretty simple and straightforward. Guys who have this fetish love watching women sit on balloons until they pop. If you have a boyfriend with this fetish, there is a pretty big chance that he has tried to give you balloons instead of flowers.

Clowns

The stuff of nightmares.

Deep Throat Techniques

Deep Throat Techniques

Learn how to perform deep throat with these 7 practical stages.

Mastering deep throat techniques will get you on your way to some sexy deep throat love. And with the right deep throat techniques you can create an incredibly erotic visual, as well as a heightened sense of pleasure on the underside of your partners shaft.

But if you’ve only ever seen images of a woman’s throat expanding and contracting as a penis bulges in and out, then it’s only natural to be thinking, what’s really in this for me, other than a strong throat constitution and avoiding the taste of semen?

Whilst it’s definitely not for all women, if you love to be in control, have a sense for adventure and already thoroughly enjoy giving head, chances are with the right deep throat techniques you might just get a kick out of performing it.

Deep Throat Techniques

Starting out, deep throat love can appear a daunting task but if you want to learn to deep throat you must first acknowledge that it’s a process that is practiced in stages. You’re not going to achieve the results either of you desire with you closing your eyes and hoping for the best and him being over eager, thrusting away with you choking on the other end. No one wants deep throat choke, so take the time to learn the proper deep throat techniques that will make performing it a lot easier to swallow.

Stage 1 – Positioning

Your correct positioning is one of the most important deep throat techniques, especially when starting out. The best way to learn is with him lying on his back with you on your side dictating when and how far you can comfortably go. Only when you have become totally accustomed to the sensation of deep throat and can control your body’s natural reflexes, should you consider trying a more submissive position such as lying on your back with your head hanging off the back of the bed. (irrumatio)

Stage 2 – Lubrication

There will definitely be no deep throat love if your mouth and throat are totally dry. So it’s very important to acquire the right deep throat techniques to ensure your mouth is well lubricated in assisting his penis sliding in to your throat. Regular sucking can tend to dry your mouth out after a while but if you press his penis as far back in to your mouth as you possibly can and hold it there for a few seconds, the back of your throat will begin to lubricate with thick saliva. Continue to do this a few times. Suck then hold, take a breath, then suck and hold again. This is known as the deep throat suck and with persistence, gradually your mouth will become a super slippery, deep throat friendly environment.

Stage 3 – Open Wide

It goes without saying that in order to perform any sort of sexy deep throat you are going to have to open your mouth really wide, but there is even a savvy deep throat technique for this. You may have noticed during fellatio the back of your throat prevents the penis from going any further. In order to get passed this, the trick to successful deep throat is opening your mouth wide enough (like a yawn) and titling your head back far enough to allow the penis to slip into your throat. This is easier said than done and will take some practice. Essentially you will need to try to create one long straight line between your mouth and throat. If you don’t get this straight line with your head tilted back, his penis will get stuck at the back of your mouth and won’t be able to move down your throat.

Stage 4 – Prepare For The Gag Reflex

Once you have practiced the head tilt, you should now be ready to take him in your mouth. As he enters, a good deep throat technique is to flatten the back of your tongue to help the muscles in your throat open. At this point you should also prepare for the gag reflex. Unfortunately, there is no avoiding this, so when it occurs, try to be calm, pause, and hold him there as long as possible. Gagging is uncomfortable and can take a while to get used to but if you can repeat this step as many times as you can, eventually you should be able to suppress this feeling and gradually be able to take him in further. A good trick to help with this is to also try breathing out while taking him in to help stop the gagging reflex.

Stage 5 – Persistence

When you take it upon yourself to learn to deep throat, you must be prepared to be persistent. So when you get to the point where his penis hits the beginning of your throat it will be normal to feel a little resistance. In this case, you will need to flatten your tongue to open the back of your throat and create the flat straight line again. A little push from your partner is another deep throat technique that can help, as long as you’re aware it’s coming. You can also try to pull his penis in further using your tongue as a lever, to draw it in then push it back out. With a little persistence you should be able to take his penis in deeper to the point where you can take the entire length of it over your tongue and down in to your deep, deep throat.

When you have gotten this far just remember you don’t need to hold him in your throat for too long. Good deep throat techniques include practicing comfortably bringing him in and then letting him out, giving yourself a break when you need it. Deep throat does not have to mean leaving his penis in your throat.

Stage 6 – Breathing

No one wants a deep throat choke so always remember to breathe! It may sound obvious but it’s actually very easy to get lost in the process and tighten up as a result of a large foreign object pushing into your throat. It’s important to relax and take your time and learn to maintain a normal breathing level.

Stage 7 – Practice

Perfecting these deep throat techniques will take practice and perseverance. Follow the stages slowly and at your own pace to help you progress to where you can comfortably and confidently move on to the next stage. With practice your movements will become smoother and faster.

On a final note, if you get through all the stages you will want to know if he is planning or hoping to ejaculate down your throat. Some women do not like the taste of semen and deep throating gets around this. However having a man ejaculate directly down your throat in a restrictive position may be confronting and not desirable to some women. It is not absolutely necessary for you to have to deep throat swallow so discuss your partners intentions beforehand to ensure good, mutual happy deep throating!

Still not convinced that nice girls give sexy deep throat? See what these normal every day ladies have to say about performing it as they share their personal Deep Throat Techniques.

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Girls First Time Sex: Practical Advice for Losing Virginity

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A girls first time sex is a big thing, and it’s a step in every female’s life that can bring curiosity, trepidation, excitement and even a bit of fear. With common thoughts of, will I be good enough? Will I please my partner? Or will it hurt being all very common and perfectly normal feelings.

When you have made the decision that you are ready to have sex the first time, make sure that it’s definitely your decision. Some girls can have the view that they want it to be something special with someone special, while others may just want to get it over with. Whatever your view point, ensure you stick to your guns as to what feels right for you. A girls first time sex will only happen once so make sure you are fully prepared and ready for your decision.

Advice for Girls First Time Sex

Preparation

Having sex the first time is all about preparation. It’s preparing yourself firstly in your mind that yes you are definitely ready, and then it’s preparing your body for what is about to come. The easiest and most pain free way to prepare your body for penetration is through plenty of foreplay. Not just on the day when you are actually going to do it but the weeks or even months before.

One of the best ways to prepare for girls first time sex is through fingering. This gets you used to the sensation of something going inside you, and if your partner is a virgin as well, it can also help them to become more familiar with your anatomy. Ensure he pays plenty of attention to your clitoris. Have him rub it gently with his fingers up and down, this should feel good and your vagina should naturally lubricate, preparing and inviting a finger in. Before you actually try penetration, make sure your partner includes plenty of this foreplay including kissing and caressing to ensure you are ready in your mind and your body.

Plan Your Location

When having sex the first time, it’s really important that you plan well in advance where you are going to do it. It will be a much more positive experience if you are somewhere where you feel completely comfortable without the chance of someone barging in. Regardless of where you are, it’s likely that you will feel a level of physical discomfort so it’s definitely worth waiting for the best opportunity to ensure the environment you are losing your virginity in is the most comfortable for you.

Choose Your Position

A girls first time sex can go from a positive to a less positive experience depending on the position you try. Some may consider trying the girl on top sex position for their first time as it potentially enables you to have the most control over what is happening. The problem with this position is that lowering yourself on to a penis for the very first time can actually be more painful than other positions. It’s like trying to rip a band-aid off your sensitive skin. You know that it’s going to hurt so you keep putting it off. You try a little bit but it hurts too much and you stop. Finally you just rip it off quickly, but unfortunately that approach isn’t likely going to make your first time sex the easiest.

The most likely position for the least amount of discomfort is missionary position. From this position your partner can wrap his arms around you and slowly guide himself in. You can talk to each other, let him know when to keep going and when to stop, while still having the ability to kiss you and try to keep it as intimate as possible.

Come Prepared With Lubricant

All vaginas come in varying different sizes, but considering you have never had penetrative sex before, your vagina won’t yet be used to a large object protruding inside. Combined with an intact hymen, you might have some difficulty actually getting it in. One of the best tips for first time sex, is to try to make a conscious effort to get some lubricant such as KY Jelly beforehand. Most people have sex with lubricant anyway, so there is no shame or harm in using it. Once you rub some on your partner’s penis and also on the opening of your vagina you will understand how much of a difference it will make. Importantly, lubricant will make insertion easier and a lot less painful.

Always Use Protection

You are not ready for sex unless you come well prepared with contraception and always protect yourself against STI’S. A girls first time sex sometimes means that she has to be the one to really enforce this. Yes you can get pregnant and catch a sexually transmitted disease the first time so don’t leave anything to chance that could make your first time regrettable. It can sound scary, but not if you take the correct precautions.

Will It Hurt?

Everyone wants to know if a girls first time sex will hurt, how much and will you bleed. There is no definitive answer as every person’s body is different. Some girls may feel a sharp tug or pinch as her hymen is being stretched, which can result in some light bleeding if it breaks. Others however may not feel this sort of pain at all, possibly having stretched their hymen previously without even realizing it, simply by playing sport or horse riding.

It’s important to remember that the sensation of pain is not very long lasting and is very manageable. You may take a sharp breath in then realize that everything is ok. Experiencing the feeling of penetration and something moving inside you may feel more foreign to some girls than actually the point of penetration. Overall it’s nothing to be scared of, it might seem strange at first but after a little practice is when you will start to really enjoy it.

The best advice for a girls first time sex is to get to know your partner well beforehand. Have open discussion together about your thoughts and your fears, practice plenty of foreplay and get really used to each other’s bodies. Importantly, choose someone who you feel completely comfortable with and totally trust for a really positive first time experience.

How to Deal with Boy First Time Sex

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Young first time sex brings with it excitement and joy but it can also bring anxiety and even a bit of fear. When you’re a girl, having sex for the first time can be really scary, there are so many things to consider and often you can get totally caught up in how you are feeling and how it’s only going to feel for you.

If you are about to lose your virginity though with your boyfriend who is also a virgin then you will need to consider his fears and concerns about the big day in addition to your own. Guys are just as nervous and yes also sometimes just as afraid of losing their virginity and although it will seem that he is always more eager and always up for it, he will have his own set of questions and doubts regarding his sexual self esteem. Will I be good enough, can I get it up, will it stay hard and will it last long enough, are all likely questions that are running furiously through his head.

If you want to make your first time sex together the best it can possibly be, then ensure you consider and discuss your boyfriends fears as well as your own.

Here are some tips for when it comes to boy first time sex:

Be Patient If He Can’t Maintain An Erection

As much as he may have bugged, pushed or cheekily always referred to having young first time young sex with you, when the big moment arrives the pressure and excitement of it all may actually become far too overwhelming for him. This can result in a very unhappy penis rather than the spiritedly pointed one you were expecting and need for penetrative sex. If this happens then be supportive. This is a huge moment for him and an even larger blow to his ego so try not to make a big deal out of it. He will already be suffering a lot of embarrassment and if not dealt with properly can lead to on going sexual problems for a young man. If he is having trouble getting an erection, try cuddling for bit then stimulating him slowly with your hand or your mouth In most cases he will spring back to attention eventually.

Give Him A Guiding Hand

What this means is that although he might be more experienced than you with masturbation and having an orgasm, when it comes to Boy first time sex, he still has no idea about what to do or what to expect when it comes to actually inserting his penis in to a vagina. Hopefully together you have had lots of foreplay and he has a good idea of your female lady bits and what’s what, but if he’s having trouble docking, then don’t be afraid to take charge a little, grab his member and guide it to your opening. You might still have to hold it gently as he starts to push it in.

Don’t Expect Too Much

The opposite of male and female sex is that women can have trouble or may have to wait a few years before her first orgasm where as boys have no trouble at all. Again in the excitement of it all and the intense sensations and release that he will feel, it might all be over a lot sooner than later. This is really normal for boy first time sex. So if it happens it’s not him or you but just inexperience. Sex the first time isn’t usually very good for anyone but it’s all part of the learning experience. The both of you together over time will get better. He will learn to hold on for longer and you will learn what it will take for you to orgasm. No one is amazing at young first time sex, so it’s important to support each other, and concentrate on practicing together over a period of time rather than focusing on one result.

Ensure He Uses Protection

Young first time sex is simply no excuse for not using proper protection. Boy can get a little lax at times with contraception, especially if it’s their first time. Make sure he knows and fully understands that you expect contraception and protection against STI’s for your first time and every other time. There simply is no excuse for not complying, and if he is refusing then you should really be thinking long and hard if this is really a person you should be having sex with.

Discuss Your Personal Expectations Beforehand

Boy first time sex is often bragged about for all the wrong and highly inappropriate reasons. Boys in general can feel ashamed if they have”t had sex yet and as a result when they finally do can have a tendency to spread their news all about town. If you’re about to have sex for the first time with another virgin then discuss this concern beforehand. A decent partner should have the sense to keep this private and intimate act between yourselves, but with boys being boys, sometimes you will need to guide them a bit as to when it’s appropriate to discus his sexual experience or relationship.

Hand Job Lesson

Hand Job Lesson

The First Hand Job Lesson For Any Girl: It’s Not A Gear Stick, You Don’t Use It Like Driving A Car And You Definitely Don’t Get Extra Points For A Squeeze & Jerk!

If you are not really sure what you’re doing and are feeling a bit overwhelmed about your first time hand job, then there is no need to worry. Everyone has to start somewhere and in this hand job lesson we look at the basics to teach you preparation, method and the importance of variety to learn how to give the best hand job ever.

First Time Hand Job

The first rule of male manual stimulation is that it’s not just about the penis. This hand job lesson lesson teaches that giving a great hand job involves firing up the whole kit and kaboodle including the testicles, scrotum and perineum. The trick to giving the best hand job ever is learning how to stimulate each one of these areas individually as well as simultaneously. The purpose of this is to give him a full well rounded experience, rather than just a regular flick of the wrist so to speak, which can become repetitive and boring.

The second rule of this hand job lesson is recognizing that no two men or penises are exactly alike, so every time you have a new partner you will need to tailor your technique to his preferences. This might sound a bit overwhelming at first but it’s not actually that hard once you have some experience. Over time you will learn naturally how to gauge his reaction if he’s enjoying it by his breathing, body movement and whether he’s making any happy sounding noises.

Preparation and Foreplay For Your First Time Hand Job

A good way start is actually when he is still clothed because although many men love nothing more than a good hard hand job, usually it’s when they are in control and not at the mercy of your inexperienced hands. Starting slowly with kissing and over clothes touching builds the magic of anticipation and excitement which is going to be far more enjoyable than just shoving your hand down there when he’s not ready.

Take the time to enjoy kissing and touching, then start by slowly rubbing your hand up and down his member on the outside of his clothes. As it hardens you can take a soft grip around it and rub your finger over the top of the head. This is also a good time to put a bit of tease in your squeeze by gently massing his scrotum or slightly tapping the head. When you feel his penis bulge and his breathing deepen you will know it’s time to make skin on skin contact.

First Contact

When you make direct contact with his penis, you will know exactly what size and width you are working with. The size will determine your standard grip and also the general length of your hand movements. If he’s well endowed, you can mix your movements up a bit and revert between longer hand strokes up and down the length, and shorter more intense movements focused by the head. But if he’s on the shorter size you will know to use quicker more rapid movements straight away.

The Importance Of Good Grip

When going to work, find a grip that is comfortable for you because depending on your man and your level of skill, you might be there for a while. Find your grip by wrapping your fingers around the penis and applying pressure, while being careful that your nails are not sticking in to his skin. It’s kind of like holding on to tennis racket with an angled wrist. It is hard to explain exactly how hard you should hold it because everyone is different but if you’re not sure, it’s better to start by holding it less firmly and gradually increase the pressure with your movement than holding it too tight from the beginning. It shouldn’t hurt your hand just by holding it, although over time with movement it is normal for your hand to fatigue. Don’t be afraid to ask him how he likes it. At the end of the day, you’re holding his manhood with his pants down, so nothing really to be shy about.

Now that you have your grip it’s time to simply start moving your hand up and down. Use a steady pace and try to make your movements fluid and rhythmical which gradually becomes faster as the intensity builds. Just be careful to maintain a controlled, methodical movement as you do this. If you lose your sync or break the cycle you can accidentally hurt him if movement changes to a rough jabbing motion.

Use Some Lubrication

The best way to get the most out of this is to use some lubrication as a dry hand on a dry penis can make for rigid and somewhat painful movements. Always try to use a personal lubricant for a smooth fluid action but if your circumstances don’t include this luxury you can always use saliva, just know that it won’t have the same effect.

Now that you have got the basics down with your first time hand job you can change this up a bit by focusing on the tip of his penis. This part is the equivalent of the female clitoris and is covered in a myriad of pleasurable nerve endings. You can stimulate this area by using only your thumb and index finger to rub over and around the top of the penis. You can even use the semen that will seep from his opening to rub around this highly sensitive area for greater pleasure. Not only is this excellent for intense stimulation but also a savvy trick to use when your hand is getting a little tired.

Going South

Moving on to the next part of this hand job lesson is having the courage to go south. This area is just as important because by stimulating his scrotum you are not only keeping things exciting you’re also preventing over stimulation. If he’s over stimulated, it means you are going to be there forever, trying to get to the end result. It’s really important to find a good balance between the right pressure and movement without going too hard and desensitizing him. By moving your main focus away from the penis, you will ignite other pleasurable senses in him while ensuring that his penis doesn’t get over aroused.

When moving down there just remember the testicles are a completely different bag of tricks, so you will need to take care when you are touching him here. Light squeezing, massing or tapping are the best methods for stimulation in this sensitive area.

If you think you’ve got this covered, an excellent trick is to massage his balls with one hand with stimulating the shaft with the other. This can take a bit of getting used to and does require a certain level or coordination but is very fulfilling when you get it.

Use Your Finger

If you are keen to stimulate him even more, you can even use your index finger to rub around his perineum. And if you’re super keen with lubricant you can even insert the tip of your finger just inside while continuing to work his penis. If this is your first time hand job, and it doesn’t appeal to you, then you really don’t need to worry about this. It’s something that you may want to think about doing in the future as a girlfriend hand job, but it is never absolutely necessary.

The purpose of a hand job is for him to climax and by continuing to work his penis by moving your hand up and down to the point of an almost fist pumping action will get him there. Just remember from this hand job lesson that the difference between a good one and an average one is foreplay, variety of movements and enthusiasm, making an overall wonderful build up to the eventual climax.

And if it’s your first time hand job don’t worry too much about the details. There is always bound to be a bit of fumbling around down there and winging it so to speak, which is all totally normal. The best hand job lesson is in fact learnt on the job so don’t worry too much if you don’t know what you’re doing. Over time and with practice you will definitely develop the necessary skills to give him those exciting hand job thrills.

Phone Sex: Learn How To Talk Sexy!

Phone Sex: Learn How To Talk Sexy

Have you ever wanted to whisper sweet nothings to your lover before he comes home from work? Regular old phone sex can really spice up your love life if you know how to do it right, and it can also make your lover appreciate you that much more. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a sexy way of saying ‘I love you’ during work, or if it’s an alluring precursor to a hot date – phone sex is fun! Best of all, you don’t have to use your hands to do it, either.

Talking sexy and sexy voices are those that are a little bit lower pitched than normal. Try to mimic the sound of voices that you hear on typical phone sex lines for men – husky, deep, but feminine. Getting the right sound when you talk on the phone will make men’s eyes widen with lust. Sexy sounds can also be very sensual during phone sex. Soft moans that women let out while they masturbate also help get a guy randy. (Hint, hint.)

Try Out Phone Sex

Most women have a little bit of trouble figuring out what sexy things to say when they first try out phone sex. If you don’t know what to say, start by saying hello, and telling your partner how hot he or she is. Tell your partner how much you have been thinking about him, what you want to do to him when he gets home, and possibly tell him about your solo sexcapades. Men and women both love the idea of being someone’s fantasy, and these kinds of words can really make a guy’s week.

You might feel a little silly at first, but generally with a little practice you will start to become more confident with your new sensual voice and you will also feel a lot sexier while talking sexy. If you are really nervous and just can’t seem to get the words out, it’s a good idea to write down a few phrases that you want to say. Practice saying them, and the different ways you can deliver each line in front of a mirror. You will definitely laugh at yourself at first, but this is excellent preparation to talk sexy. When you know you have become better at it, you will be able to draw from all your excellent training and deliver sexy words and phrases over the phone at any time.

To get the most out of your sexy talk, it’s good paint a picture so speak, during your phone sex dialogue. Men are visual creatures, as it is often said, so give them something to visualize, and tell them what you are wearing. (Note: If you are wearing a raggy, mildewy bathrobe, don’t say that is what you are wearing. Instead, say ‘a sexy little negligee.’ It may be a lie, but it’s only white lie, and it’s definitely a lot sexier.) Use classic phone sex samples like telling them that you are lounging naked, that you just touched yourself thinking about them, and that you wish that they were there. You don’t have to go as far as extreme phone sex to get the desire effect. As long as you paint a pretty picture, men will admire the view through the phone.

Basically, use your imagination. The power of phone sex is that it lets you excite, entice, and intrigue men through the spoken word. There’s a little bit of mystery behind phone sex that makes it a little bit more edgy, and it’s a lot more intimate than sexting. After a steamy session, promise that you’ll please him even more when you next see him – it’ll be enough to keep you on his mind for weeks.

Guide to Female Sex Toys for Beginners

Female-Sex-Toys-for-Beginners

Everyone wants to know what the best sex toys for women are and really it’s always going to come down to personal choice. But if you have never tried one before and are feeling a little timid about purchasing your first toy, then our guide to female sex toys for beginners is for you.

Where do I Get a Toy from?

Thinking about purchasing your very first sex toys for female can be exciting but also intimidating. Do you go in to a shop, do you order online, do you get it delivered to your home, and what if somebody finds out! And even when you get passed all these hurdles, how do you possibly know which are the best sex toys for women?

When it comes to girls and sex toys it is normal to feel apprehensive about all these points. But if you’re feeling too timid to take the plunge with a female masturbation vibrator, then think again. Every woman with a sex toy has had to overcome these feelings and more often than not, end up becoming quite the collector!

Firstly, think about how you are going to get one. Ordering online is usually a very reliable process and it’s easy to know what the top selling sex toys are from other user’s reviews. But if you don’t feel comfortable having it sent to your home address, you can always have it delivered to a friend’s home or collect it from the post office.

If you don’t have the ability to order online, then there is no shame in walking in to a sex shop. There are many stores which now specifically gear their stores to the lucrative female market, so if you’re not ready for endless rows of black leather, chains and impossibly sized dildo’s, then immerse yourself in a shop that is specifically for women with happy pink rows endlessly filled with beautifully colored female sex toys.

How do I Know which Toy to Choose?

Now, when it comes to actually considering which toy is for, just remember this: Basically the best sex toys for women are simply the ones that get you off. So when deciding which one may be for you, consider exactly how you like your sex and then find a sex toy or female masturbation vibrator to match.

If you’re not exactly sure what you’re looking for then consider this. Sexually active women can usually be divided in to three groups: Women who prefer cunnilingus,Women who prefer penetration; And women who love both. So with this in mind, think about what type of sex you prefer when choosing your female masturbation vibrator.

List of Female Sex Toys Reviewed

If you are not very sexually experienced and are unsure which category you may come under, try not to get too overwhelmed with all the different colors, sizes and buzzing devices. Some may confuse, fascinate or even freak you out, and something that may totally scare you to begin with might actually become your most favorite thrilling toy.

When making your decision, a good place to start is by looking at the top selling sex toys. You can either do this online by reading reviews or by asking the shop attendant. The best sex toys for women do not have to be the most expensive and there are many varieties of affordable sex toys. If you don’t want to spend a lot of money but don’t want to be disappointed if you buy something cheap, a good place to start is with a mid priced toy with a history of being one of the best vibrators for female orgasm.

Like any purchase that is important to you, be sure to do your research beforehand and perhaps start out firstly with affordable sex toys and something that is less intense before upgrading to a more powerful female masturbation vibrator.

Whatever your choice, rest assured girls and sex toys were made for each other, and even if you really don’t know which one is going to bring you the most pleasure, making your first purchase of any kind is a step toward a whole new world of self pleasure , sexual independence and incredible satisfaction.

Thinking about your First Toy? Try This:

First Time Rabbit – If you’re thinking about your first time vibrator, then a rabbit is always a good place to start. You don’t have to spend a lot of money to get a good one and you don’t need anything too fancy or too big to start with. These are such wonderful toys to begin experimenting, which is why this rabbit, is perfect for a first time user.