Light Bondage

Never mind the images which come to your mind whenever you hear the word “bondage”; it has now come to mean different things to different people. For that couple wishing to try something new and exciting with less of the leather and chains and more of the fun and games, then light bondage promises plenty of fun and loads of games.

If this is the first time you and your partner are dabbling into a light form of bondage, it’s important to know the basics which are probably all you’ll actually need. The most important elements to consider are the presence of mutual consent, trust and communication (CTC). Long-term couples are the best type to embark on the journey of going beyond their normal sexual limits, because they’ve built up enough understanding over time.

The great thing about light bondage is that there are really no rules and anyone can be in charge. There’ll be plenty of switching of roles as the male as well as female partner take turns to be in control of what ever bondage scene is chosen.

Light Bondage:

Restraints

Common “tools” required to get started in light bondage will include stockings, scarves or even his ties. These are great as restraints, a main aspect of bondage, and especially useful if the female decides to tie her lover to the bed and have her wicked way with him. Since men are supposed to be the weaker half then imagine the thrill of having him completely under your power and unable to resist when you tease and tempt him with your lips, hands or body. And on the flip side, the woman can put up some mock resistance and find herself restrained with her own stockings tied around her ankles and wrists leaving her exposed and helpless against her ravisher. In both cases either lover gets to submit to the other who’s playing the lead role. Bondage, even light ones, is only ever fun if there’s some kind of “power play” so keep that in mind!

Blindfolds

These are a nice touch with or without tying your partner up as well. It’s the ultimate feature in bondage play for the everyday couple. Blindfold him/her with a dark piece of cloth and find out what happens when you cut off the sense of sight. And if you want to deprive them of any other sensory abilities, then do it! Ear plugs, nose pegs…explore this kind of play and build up the erotic suspense.

Spanking

Laying your hand on your partner in any other situation may well be considered a no-no. But in light bondage, a bit of spanking will never be amiss. In fact, this is one feature of bondage that many “normal” couples find so easy to make a part of their light bondage scene. Done traditionally with the hand on the bottom will add more spark than sting for that couple who’re tough enough to give and take it. Some partners, especially male, may hesitate to bring in any kind of physical violence into the bedroom. But hey, if she really, really wants it, and shows you she’s comfortable with the idea, then oblige her – and if possible, ask her to return the favour.

Safewords

Perhaps the only actual rule you’ll have to worry about in light bondage play is the use of safe words. You may both have just started fooling around and so far, everything is going as planned. You’re securely tied to the bed and he gets out the feather to run up and down your back, then moves on to use some ice cubes to trace around your nipples and get them hard and tingly. By now you’re shivering with delight and wondering what he’ll think up next. Well, this time he’s lit up the candle and drips some wax on your skin and at first it’s something you think you can handle. You flinch as the first ten drops land on your back and tell yourself, well it’s not so bad, the sensations are different and thrilling and he’s your lover so you trust him not to hurt you too much. But then perhaps you’ve also been blindfolded, so you feel all the more helpless and exposed. This is still all too new to you both psychologically and physically and you suddenly decide you want it to stop. At once.

So what do you do?

Blindfolds Light BondageIf you both were careful enough to discuss the ways in which you can communicate to each other that you want the play to end, then you’ll be fine. A random, otherwise meaningless word or term will suffice as a safe word, or for safe signals, you may have chosen to use a few quick taps of your hand or the ringing of a small bell. And no, you can’t simply say “stop” and expect it to work, especially not if you were both experimenting with some rough sex involving resistance play where the word “no” has already been used over and over again as part of the game.

To avoid confusion and potentially dangerous outcomes, always have safe-words which are nonsexual and easy to identify as such. That way, you can ensure that when the fun stops, then the game must stop, as well.

Getting rougher in the bedroom is meant to bring out your wild side and take you both to the next level of mutual awareness. Indulging in light bondage has been known to build intimacy and trust as you both expand your erotic territories. Allowing yourself to surrender completely to your partner involves total commitment in order for it to work.

Bondage might be a game but it’s best played right or not at all. So if you want things to get nasty and extremely naughty, wouldn’t it be all the more fulfilling if it’s with a lover who cherishes and understands your deepest needs?

Why is the inclusion of light bondage so enjoyable and rewarding?

Entering into the world of bondage and domination in its simplest form is all the more thrilling because it seems unconventional and very, very wicked. For that good-couple-gone-bad it’s the best way to start a brand new adventure involving exciting roles of dominance side by side with submission. If he wants to be your sex slave for the night, by all means let him, and show him who’s boss as you treat him to some orgasm control.

You hold off his release as long as you dare, and drive him wild with your teasing antics as you bring him close to his peak time and again. And then watch him explode when you finally give the green light! As for her, keep her nice and sweet with some nipple clamps and watch her squirm as you add a little weight to the ends.

The sensation of those nerve-ends of pleasure being tugged at will be a great way to pull her strings and make her squeal with delight. Change things up every night and you’ll see why light bondage will always be a favorite for that discerning couple.

Published by Rosie Raphaelle

Her mission is to show women how to have fun, safe and meaningful sex. Her sex tips articles has been published in many women's magazines.

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