Have Safe Sex with Condoms

Learning how to have safe sex is an imperative step everyone needs to take before engaging in any sexual activity. It can make all the difference between enjoying sex in a positive and fully satisfying light, to dealing with some very regrettable consequences.

Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs)┬áprevention and unwanted pregnancies start with having safe sex right from the very start of your sexual life and should always continue through on your sexual journey. By preventing yourself from coming in to contact with anyone else’s blood, semen, vaginal fluids or even breast milk will protect against sexually transmitted diseases (vaginal, oral or anal.) Some of which are easily treatable and some which are unfortunately incurable. Learn how to practice safe sex right from the very beginning to ensure you have a happy and fulfilling sex life.

How to Have Safe Sex with Condoms

When learning how to have safe sex, your first and new mantra should always be to use a condom. They are so commonly used that if anyone ever suggests that you don’t use one then you seriously need to think why. No matter how long you have know them for, if they are asking you not to use a condom then it’s more than likely that they asked their previous partner not to use one and will probably ask their next partner not to use one as well. Make a wise decision because no one can look after your body except for you, and you only get one.

How to Use a Condom

  • Use care when opening the packet as not to tear or catch the condom with your fingers
  • The condom should be held at the teat and then rolled on to the penis. Never open a condom out and then try to put it on. If you don’t have success getting it on the first time, throw it away and use a new one.
  • Watch or help your partner put it on. Ensure that he does it properly and don’t accept it as good to go if you feel that he hasn’t done it correctly. This includes checking the expiry date on the packet and ensuring the condom has been left in a cool dry place. A condom left in the heat such as in a car’s glove box is more likely to break.
  • Make sure he puts it on fully and you are happy with the result. If he is flippant with his application the condom can slip off and usually that means inside you. It’s not fun retrieving a condom from depths of your vagina, and while it can happen even when it has been placed on properly, try to prevent this by making he sure it’s done correctly in the first place.
  • If you are using lubricant (common for couples during vaginal sex and essential for anal sex) only purchase a water soluble lubricant such as KY Jelly or another leading brand. These are also inexpensive and readily available. Lubricant makes sex more comfortable but it also helps to prevent too much friction that can result in the condom breaking or tearing. Never use Vaseline or anything else you may have handy around the house. Not only can they cause you irritation, these products compromise the strength of the condom and can cause them to tear.
  • Don’t let the penis be in contact with the vagina before the condom is on. Also, the penis should be withdrawn immediately after ejaculation with your partner holding the rim of the condom to stop any spillage. Take care to then slip the condom off.
  • Only ever use a condom once.

Preventing sexually transmitted diseases or pregnancy is as easy as using a condom but although they are so widely used and mostly successful, the only way to truly protect yourself from getting an STDs is to abstain from sex all together. Of course, this is not an option or a lifestyle for most people but knowing this should always make you vigilant to in protecting yourself and your partner.

STDs Prevention and Oral Sex

Learning how to have safe sex also includes protecting yourself during oral sex. Although oral sex carries a lower risk of transmitting STD’s it is still possible and having safe sex doesn’t just mean preventing your partners bodily fluids from coming in to contact with yours and vice versa. It also means covering up or avoiding contact with parts of the body that might be infectious (eg. Herpes sores or warts)

  • Use condoms during oral sex. You can use flavoured or ribbed condoms for extra pleasure.
  • Don’t participate in oral sex if you have mouth ulcers or bleeding gums. This can include not brushing your teeth before oral sex.
  • Avoid oral sex if you have a cold sore. These are caused by herpes virus and can be contracted through oral sex.
  • Avoid getting blood or semen in your mouth.
  • If you participate in analingus consider using a dental dam to protect yourself from bacteria, or bodily fluids.

Safe Sex Practices

  • Have regular check ups. If you are uncomfortable going to see your family Dr then go to a medical clinic.
  • Knowing how to have safe sex is being especially vigilant when having sex with people that you may not know very well. Take it upon yourself to be extra careful because they may not show you the same care or attention to detail in the heat of the moment.
  • If you regularly change partners, consider reducing the number of people you are sleeping with. The more people you have sex with, the more likely it is that one or more of your partners will have an STDs.
  • If you are in a stable relationship generally it is a natural progression for you to move from using condoms to another form of contraception. If this is you, then ensure you both have an STDs check up. Visit a medical clinic together in support and also receive your results together. Discuss beforehand the alternative contraception you should use.

Learning how to have safe sex only takes a few simple steps to protect yourself and your partner. Get yourself in to the habit of always having safe sex and it will become a normal part of life and your sexual routine.

Published by Rosie Raphaelle

Her mission is to show women how to have fun, safe and meaningful sex. Her sex tips articles has been published in many women's magazines.

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