Young first time sex brings with it excitement and joy but it can also bring anxiety and even a bit of fear. When you’re a girl, having sex for the first time can be really scary, there are so many things to consider and often you can get totally caught up in how you are feeling and how it’s only going to feel for you.

If you are about to lose your virginity though with your boyfriend who is also a virgin then you will need to consider his fears and concerns about the big day in addition to your own. Guys are just as nervous and yes also sometimes just as afraid of losing their virginity and although it will seem that he is always more eager and always up for it, he will have his own set of questions and doubts regarding his sexual self esteem. Will I be good enough, can I get it up, will it stay hard and will it last long enough, are all likely questions that are running furiously through his head.

If you want to make your first time sex together the best it can possibly be, then ensure you consider and discuss your boyfriends fears as well as your own.

Here are some tips for when it comes to boy first time sex:

Be Patient If He Can’t Maintain An Erection

As much as he may have bugged, pushed or cheekily always referred to having young first time young sex with you, when the big moment arrives the pressure and excitement of it all may actually become far too overwhelming for him. This can result in a very unhappy penis rather than the spiritedly pointed one you were expecting and need for penetrative sex. If this happens then be supportive. This is a huge moment for him and an even larger blow to his ego so try not to make a big deal out of it. He will already be suffering a lot of embarrassment and if not dealt with properly can lead to on going sexual problems for a young man. If he is having trouble getting an erection, try cuddling for bit then stimulating him slowly with your hand or your mouth In most cases he will spring back to attention eventually.

Give Him A Guiding Hand

What this means is that although he might be more experienced than you with masturbation and having an orgasm, when it comes to Boy first time sex, he still has no idea about what to do or what to expect when it comes to actually inserting his penis in to a vagina. Hopefully together you have had lots of foreplay and he has a good idea of your female lady bits and what’s what, but if he’s having trouble docking, then don’t be afraid to take charge a little, grab his member and guide it to your opening. You might still have to hold it gently as he starts to push it in.

Don’t Expect Too Much

The opposite of male and female sex is that women can have trouble or may have to wait a few years before her first orgasm where as boys have no trouble at all. Again in the excitement of it all and the intense sensations and release that he will feel, it might all be over a lot sooner than later. This is really normal for boy first time sex. So if it happens it’s not him or you but just inexperience. Sex the first time isn’t usually very good for anyone but it’s all part of the learning experience. The both of you together over time will get better. He will learn to hold on for longer and you will learn what it will take for you to orgasm. No one is amazing at young first time sex, so it’s important to support each other, and concentrate on practicing together over a period of time rather than focusing on one result.

Ensure He Uses Protection

Young first time sex is simply no excuse for not using proper protection. Boy can get a little lax at times with contraception, especially if it’s their first time. Make sure he knows and fully understands that you expect contraception and protection against STI’s for your first time and every other time. There simply is no excuse for not complying, and if he is refusing then you should really be thinking long and hard if this is really a person you should be having sex with.

Discuss Your Personal Expectations Beforehand

Boy first time sex is often bragged about for all the wrong and highly inappropriate reasons. Boys in general can feel ashamed if they have”t had sex yet and as a result when they finally do can have a tendency to spread their news all about town. If you’re about to have sex for the first time with another virgin then discuss this concern beforehand. A decent partner should have the sense to keep this private and intimate act between yourselves, but with boys being boys, sometimes you will need to guide them a bit as to when it’s appropriate to discus his sexual experience or relationship.

Published by Rosie Raphaelle

Her mission is to show women how to have fun, safe and meaningful sex. Her sex tips articles has been published in many women's magazines.

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