Better Sex Guide

Here is s better sex guide to help you relax and enjoy stress-free intimate moments with your partner. Here you’ll find helpful advice on before, during and after sex, as well as additional information on: sexercise, cardio exercise, pelvic contraction and flexibility.

Before Sex

Having sex encompasses far more than just a singular focus on coital intercourse. It takes practice and patience from both parties to make it a rewarding experience.

plan-ahed

1. Plan Ahead

It is always good to find time and plan ahead to inject some romantic and sensual elements into sex.

Having a candle light dinner, watching romantic movies or taking a stroll in the park while holding hands can bring back fond memories.

Aromatic scents, oil massages and erotic movies could also be helpful to some women and their partners. Wearing sexy lingerie can make a person feel sexier and set the mood for sex.

good-comunication2. Good Communication

Communication is essential in any relationship. A woman should open up and engage with her partner by sharing and practicing those things that may arouse the feeling of sexiness and evoke desire.

place3. Place

Having sex should be in a place where it is safe and comfortable. Being adventurous is okay so long as both of you can perform with ease.

During Sex

relax1. Relax

Whenever you are engaged in sex try to put all your worries away. Being all tensed up, trying to rush it or worrying too much may simply kill the moment. Relax and try not to stress yourself.

to-talk-not-talk2. To talk or not to talk

Talking is essential in any relationship. A woman should open up and engage with her partner by sharing and practicing those things that may arouse feelings of sexiness and evoke desire.

After Sex

There are no right or wrong things to do after sex. Some might choose to just lie down and sleep, while some might just go straight to the toilet or kitchen. Others might choose to spend time talking and recalling the moments.

Post-coital pleasers, as a matter fact, can leave a sexy impression and help to create a satisfying experience.

on-bed1. On The Bed

Check if he is falling asleep or keen to continue with some intimate conversation. Men and women have different biological needs and responses after sex.

Following intercourse, a man could be totally exhausted with his brain going into a state of rest. While on the other hand, a woman usually feels more refreshed or stimulated and could crave bonding.

So, ladies, do not get all worked up if you hear snoring. Just let it be and cuddle him or snuggle up a bit if you want to. If he wants to grab a bite or take some fresh air (or even smoke, though not fresh in the literal sense), let him be or join him.

light-stuff2. Light stuff

One good way is to lie down face to face with him and do some light touching (this does not necessarily extend to the genitals).

If you are all energized, you could offer him a light back and shoulder massage. If he needs to re-hydrate, a glass of water might help. Small talk like recounting what sexy moves turned you on the most could help. If he is up for round 2, go for it!

shower-for23. A Shower for 2

Pulling your man into a hot shower could overpower his post-coital crash response. Not only is it proper hygiene, the soaping session and hot water running through both your bodies could help you relax and refresh. He could get sufficiently aroused (again) and voila, another round of hot steamy shower sex does not seem like a bad idea!

You can now enjoy all the above in total confidence, knowing the frustration, worry and apprehension are things of the past. No more arguments, battles or bitterness, just sexy fun, loving and intimacy … exactly the way it should be.

Sex and Your Body – Better Sex Guide

Sexercise

According to the NHS Direct website, “sexercise” can lower the risk of heart attacks and help people live longer.

Endorphins released during orgasm stimulate immune system cells, which also help target illnesses like cancer, as well as wrinkles, it states.

“Sex uses every muscle group, gets the heart and lungs working hard, and burns about 300 calories an hour.” The advice suggests “regular romps this winter” could lead to a better body and a younger look.

Increased production of endorphins “will make your hair shine and your skin smooth,” it adds. “If you’re worried about wrinkles – orgasms even help prevent frown lines from deepening.”

The better sex guide article goes on to say that orgasms release “painkillers” into the bloodstream, which helps keep mild illnesses like colds, and aches and pains at bay. The production of extra estrogen and testosterone hormones “will keep your bones and muscles healthy, leaving you feeling fabulous inside and out”.

SOURCE: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/4703166.stm

Cardio Exercise

Just like any physician would recommend, cardio endurance is essential to good health while keeping certain diseases at bay. Try to follow the 30 x 3 ruling – aim for three times a week with each session lasting more than 30 minutes.

So even though your heart’s not in it now, it soon will be. Here’s a little better sex guide to make sure you really make the most of your new found enthusiasm…

For enthusiastic sex, you’ll need some cardio endurance. It won’t be any fun if you bonk out halfway through. Shoot for 3 or 4 days of cardio exercise like running, walking, swimming or whatever floats your boat and your partner will thank you.

Sex also requires a little endurance. You may find yourself holding…err…unusual positions for short periods of time, so conditioning your body can be a plus for longer lasting sex. For endurance, you’ll need to lift lighter weights for more repetitions. Check out some endurance workouts and get conditioned for sex.

As long as we’re talking about holding yourself in position, we might as well cover muscular strength, which is something else you’ll need. Your muscles will be contracting like crazy no matter what position you’re in, so it pays to be in shape to avoid nasty leg or foot cramps. For strength, you’ll need to lift heavier weights for fewer repetitions.

Flexibility can enhance anyone’s sex life by making it a bit easier to get into your favourite position with a minimum amount of fuss. Why not try a little Yoga to get you in the mood?

SOURCE: http://exercise.about.com/cs/exercisehealth/a/sexandexercise.htm

Pelvic Contraction

Exercising the muscles in the pelvic floor is said to enhance your vaginal grip and improve orgasms. Commonly known as the Kegel Exercise, named after its founder Dr Arnold Kegel, this exercise is usually recommended for pregnant women and those suffering from incontinence and vaginal prolapse.

It is not hard to do once you acquire the skills and techniques. The rule of “use it or lose it” applies to every single muscle, and that includes your pelvic muscle and vagina. So, do not forget to work out these muscles especially when it costs you nothing!

To read more detail check out this article:
http://www.webmd.com/women/tc/kegel-exercises-topic-overview

Flexibility

Undeniably, a little bit of flexibility can make it a lot easier to get into your desired position without fuss. If you think this extra ability to bend is only meant for those in the younger generations who are into tantric sex, think again!

Let us not forget that added flexibility in your body seems to be a sure-fire way to help prevent painful joints and body aches when you get older. Thus, it makes perfect sense to incorporate a bit of stretching, Pilates or Yoga into your exercise regime the next time.

For an in depth article on yoga for increased flexibility:
http://stason.org/articles/sexuality/yoga-and-sexuality/RoutineForBetterSex.pdf

Published by Rosie Raphaelle

Her mission is to show women how to have fun, safe and meaningful sex. Her sex tips articles has been published in many women's magazines.

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